American famous investor John C Bogle, who was the founder and Chief Executive of The Vanguard Group was removed from the position as president of Wellington Management but because of his resilience he founded the Vanguard Group and the first Index Fund. It was Resilience only which made Steve Jobs, when fired from Apple to found another computer company called NeXT, which Apple purchased in 1996 for 400 million dollars, at which point Jobs again returned to Apple and took the company to new heights.
Resilience is defined as the capacity to recover quickly from difficulties. It is our capacity to be robust under pressure. Resilience is not only managing and recovering from a trauma but also to find new opportunities while facing challenges. Though Resilience is a puzzle but if you carefully observe these resilient people I am sure you will find the following few traits which helps them to be more resilient than others.
M. Scott Peck once said, “Life is difficult. This is a great truth, one of the greatest truths. It is a great truth because once we truly see this truth, we transcend it. Once we truly know that life is difficult – once we truly understand and accept it – then life is no longer difficult. Because once it is accepted, the fact that life is difficult no longer matters.” The first property of a resilient person is to acknowledge the difficulty. Only after accepting difficulties as they are, comes the understanding that the difficulty is a beginning not an end. Once accepted can the future be planned.
When Steve Jobs was fired from Apple, he flew to Paris. After few days of stay in Paris, he flew to Tuscan hills of Italy, where he camped under the stars. From Italy he went to Sweden then to Russia before returning home with a renewed passion. This gives our second ingredient which adds to our resilience is the recovery time. A body builder understands that recovery after exercise is essential for tissue repair and muscle building specially after heavy weight sessions. Typically a muscle needs 24 to 48 hours to repair and rebuild. Working it out too soon simply leads to tissue breakdown, instead of building. Same way our body needs proper sleep time to recover. Likewise to boost our resilience and to come out from difficulty we need recovery time equivalent to the problem faced. More severe the difficulty, more time needed for recovery.
In 2014, Facebook News Feed team and Facebook core data science team conducted a famous experiment called, “Experimental evidence of massive scale emotional contagion through Social networks” and published in the Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences, USA.
The experiment was conducted on 689,003 users, which showed that emotional contagion occurs even without direct interaction between people. Experiment provided evidence that emotional states can be transferred to others via emotional contagion, leading people to experience same emotions without their awareness. People can transfer positive or negative moods, just by their news feed and the effect in some cases last for even several days.
Drop by drop is the water pot filled. Likewise, the wise one, gathering it little by little, fills oneself with good (The Dhammapada). The path of resilience is shaped by our day to day, year to year efforts. Though we are naturally influenced by others but resilient people are careful on how do all this linger on their daily life. They fill themselves only with good. This gives our third trait “Positive feeds” which adds big to our resilience.
Life if fragile and at times event do turns out badly. But Acceptance, Recovery time and Positivity makes us to surf in the Tsunami. These are few steps where by which we can realistically increase our resilience. We are responsible for ourselves and have to define our own path turning down some old conventional ones. Days are long but the years are short and as the seconds tick by, they are also gone. Let’s commit to grow these strengths and make the best of our resilience and bounce back effectively from our troubles.